DOMESTIC DISTURBIA: DOUBE EDGED STANDARDS

I would like to begin by stating that; I DO NOT KNOW THE DETAILS OF THE CHRIS BROWN/RIHANNA CASE. That being said, it appears that we now live in an increasingly “double standard” society, where chivalry only applies when it is advantageous to women.

Take the aforementioned case for instance, no one, outside of the individuals involved, and a handful of people, have ALL the “facts” in this case, yet, even before the Rihanna pic was released, there was a plethora of condemning statements, blogs, and articles directed at Chris.

If true, the mere insinuation Rihanna is purportedly contemplating taking him back says it all. She is either glutton for punishment, accepts partial responsibility for the “incident”, suffers from low self esteem, straight crazy, or, all of the above.

Now understand, I don’t condone anyone putting their hands on anyone, much less a woman, without probable cause, but, until the ALL THE FACTS come out, shouldn’t we withhold judgment/condemnation?

Secondly, in the event a man is assaulted by a woman, without physical provocation, does he ever have a right to defend himself?

Granted, a man should never use excessive force, and that very well may be the case in this instance, but he should have every right to retaliate/defend himself with equal force, if his rights are being violated, irrespective of gender.

All the man bashers need to fall back!!! You’re entitled to your opinion, but don’t bury the kid until BOTH versions of the truth are revealed.

The movement to liberate women has made tremendous strides within the past three decades, and rightfully so, but it appears society and the Law has overreacted/overcorrected, and due to the sins of our forefathers, lady liberty’s pendulum has swung unanimously, in favor of the fairer sex.

I’m not going to pretend that men still do not hold an unflattering share of guilt in a majority of domestic abuse cases, but sometimes, women have used the situation to their advantage, and exploited the law, with impunity.

There's a grey area, i.e. if you're being playful, or if someone is crowding you during an argument, but don't overstep your boundaries, and whatever you do, don't raise your hand to a man, if you don't want to get pounded out like a man..... And trust me, I have had my fair share of incidents. Last time, if it weren't for my past experience, maturity, and my level of sobriety, I would have probably done something very similar.

Proportionally, men are physically stronger than women, but in the spirit of equality, shouldn’t we have ensured that the rights of both sexes are equally protected by law, when the laws were being written?

Again, I do not know, and don’t pretend to know the details of any particular case, but for arguments sake, we need to treat each other as equals, with dignity, respect, and, within the law, period. Especially in regards to the people we profess to love. That’s the only way we will ever attain true equality, for all.

Peace,
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